Plan for ‘Life’ to Happen
Hola Faithful Warriorz,
So, let’s chat about planning. How many of you are planners?
Maybe, a daily planner by making a ‘to-do’ list to check things off as the day goes by. Or maybe, monthly by planning things out with an agenda/planner. Or how about a life planner that plans certain goals to reach by a specific timeframe (date or age).
I’m not a huge daily planner. As far as a life planner, well umm, I never had or set a timeframe on anything but do have goals and things I want to accomplish in life. I think the only time the ‘planner’ comes out in me is when I’m planning a family trip.
Planning involves a lot of time, thinking (forecasting), and commitment. Just to name a few. I feel one of the most important things to keep in mind while planning anything is to be flexible. I know some may believe or say ‘being flexible’ doesn’t fit every occasion in life. Yet, I like to believe it does.
How???
By not settling yourself on a specific timeframe OR if you feel like you must, in order, to keep yourself accountable, then be FLEXIBLE with yourself especially when LIFE HAPPENS.
If you don’t reach whatever you (had) planned…it doesn’t mean to give up on it, just means that timeframe wasn’t right – if you believe in a higher power, maybe wasn’t according to HIS time for you – or depending on the goal, wasn’t the right person, place or mindset.
So, with that being said, let’s take this conversation to that flip side.
What are the consequences of planning? 
I mean…what happens when whatever you plan – your day, that trip, that event, your relationship, or even your life don’t go as you “planned“?
Back to “Now, ‘life planning’…umm” …did I succeed? Well, my first or immediate response is, “I failed miserably at it!” Yet, the second looking-back perspective is, “But…did I really ‘fail miserably’ at it?”
I mean… who doesn’t want to fall in love, get married, and start a family? –> Me <– …this gal right here! I know, not for everybody. There are those that don’t for their own known reasons but a very, very high percentage of us do. I think these life events are the most popular ones that most of us plan to (or want to) happen and some by or within a certain age. Again, don’t get me wrong…there is nothing wrong with planning anything in your life. I’m just saying somewhere in your hopes, keep in mind that sometimes not all plans happen…well, as you plan. Don’t be so hard on yourself for when the unplanned happens.
For me, this year …2018… has been a bittersweet year for me. I thought I was finally blessed with everything I had wanted…and even prayed for – 
love, marriage, and a (complete) family. Never did I ever think all that could be taken from me. Almost as the saying goes “in a blink of an eye” or that’s what it felt like to me. That part I NEVER, EVER planned for.
I would tell my kids, nothing in life is permanent. What happens today, might not happen again tomorrow, next month, or even next year. The only thing in life that is consistent is change. That belief has now become my own life’s reminder – my life’s motto.
As I sit here, writing this post, I fight my tears because right now I don’t see a happily ever after ending for me. Yet, trying to look or be on the positive side, I’m thankful for how far I had to pick myself up (kicking & screaming). I was pretty much stripped of damn near everything I loved…everything I had…even down to my Faith. They say that sometimes God allows certain things to happen to us, in order, to humble us or bring us back to him or to fall apart to prepare us for something better. During this dark moment of my life, I felt naked on the outside and empty on the inside like an empty shell of just a body. Numb down to only feel anger, pain, and defeat.
This is the ‘unplanned’ part of my life to the part I thought I had finally planned out.
Of course, being human, I question what lessons am I to learn from my recent trials of a failing marriage, wondering if love truly conquers all and the pain of losing familyships (family relationships) which resulted in me questioning my Faith.
I’m still in the midst of no or incomplete answers but I gotta believe that all this will not be in vain.
To top everything off, I’m about eight months pregnant which brings me to more tears because this is not how I planned to bring my unborn child into this world. I thought I was finally on the right path but it appears I might have been derailed or distracted from my right path. All I can do is rub my round belly and for the millionth time, apologize for crying (again). Yet, complete sadness does not quite fill me as I feel there’s something more to all this – a speck of hope, that something better is coming…
